World of Wedding

There are many colors you can choose for your bouquet. If you are going to wear a colored dress, choosing the right color to accompany your dress can be a bit tricky. Because not every color is suitable for your dress. To choose the suitable one, there are some guidelines to follow:

1. Choose Your Favorite Color
   
   Choose the color that you like & reflects your personal taste. You have a favorite one, and you can pick its shades to be your bouquet element. Whatever your guests talk about yours, you need not to worry. You like it, right?



2. Use the Same Color
   
   You can match your bouquet color by mixing the shades of your gown or theme color. For example, if you pick a purple wedding theme & you wear violet dress, you can choose shades of violet as your bouquet elements. Shades of violet consists of orchid, purple, violet, etc. You can choose one shade or combine them as your arrangement. Flowers that can be used to arrange it such as lavender, hydrangea, lily, etc.



3. Use Complementary Color
   
   Complementary color is opposite of it. If they mixed, they produce a neutral one such as white, grey, or black. The exact opposite of the dress' color will make a great focus to the bouquet. In this combination, you should pay attention about each strength. The easiest way to choose is by looking at a color wheel, a circle chart that tell you what primary different colors will become when they mixed together. With the right composition, you can achieve a great one. The standard complementary are: red and green; blue and orange; yellow and purple. For example, if you are going to wear a purple dress, you can choose a yellow one that can be arranged with yellow calla lily, sunflower, gerbera, etc.



4. Neutral Bouquet
   
   If you are still confused after reading this, try neutral arrangement. Neutral means without color. Although neutrals are white, grey, and black; for flower, a neutral is white. White is purity and basic. It can be matched with any color. White has several hues: cream, snow, & ivory. Those hues can be found on calla lily, carnation, freesia, etc.

"First Date Flowers" always feels like over-kill. I would feel like a real ass bringing flowers to her door when I hardly know her; especially because I minimize phone contact. Depending on the woman, flowers can send a message that you are desperately trying any "romance" tactic you have read about in a novel -- or worse yet, in an on-line "tip" e-mail group.

Instead I bring the "mini-bouquet."

Buy Montreal flowers -- you probably want to buy a couple of the $4 deals at the store. If she asks, it's risky to have to tell her you picked them from the neighbor's yard -- or near some weeds at the laundromat. Next, select about 5 various tiny ones and bunch them together. Tie them together with thin ribbon in a bow (it won't work without the ribbon). The whole thing should be no longer than 2 1/4 inches.
Keep them in your pocket.

When the time is right present them to her sincerely. Don't use them to fix the mood. Use them when you think the mood has peaked. If it is a dinner date, I often do this while we are waiting to be seated. (Many times women feel most "womanly" during this period because you are playing the male role of arranging dinner. She will wait passively and watch you handle confidently the situation -- watching you provide for her.)

Depending on your attire (coat pockets are the best -- but summer is hot), you will be trying to unload these babies before they get completely demolished in your pocket. Choose robust flowers -- check on their state periodically to determine their decay rate. Don't be afraid to just ditch them if the opportunity doesn't arise (which means the date is going sucky anyway), but even mangled flowers will do the trick.

It's the effort and surprise. There is something sexy about not giving them gifts right away in the evening -- providing them as though you are not in a hurry to unload them hints at an "endless supply of provisions occurring at regular intervals" -- (the female need -- something about caring for offspring -- but we'll leave that for another discussion).

She will be able to leave them out on the table to look at, without drawing embarrassing attention from strangers. Also, she will take them home in her purse, and reflect on them later (points while you're not even around).

I guess I don't recommend giving the whole bunch of flowers at the end of the evening. Once I strongly hinted at this while dropping her off, by mentioning the major flower bunch was in my trunk and needing water. She ignored the hint -- content with the mini-bouquet.

Instead put them up in your own house. Flowers are nice to look at; plus it spruces up any bachelor pad -- even if they are 6 months dead. Girls always ask who they were from -- depending on how much you are willing to spin the truth, I would say, "I bought them."