In order to get the best results, it is wise to select your bridesmaids’ dresses at least five months before the wedding ceremony.
In general, the
bridesmaids' dresses are ordered through a
bridal salon. There are also some brides who like to have them made by a professional tailor.
You will find lots of them at a department store. These dresses will meet your requirements and your bridesmaids will in all probability wear them again to another formal party or wedding.
If you order from a
bridal shop your bridesmaids may have to leave a down payment to order the dress. All deals should be made in writing to avoid any complication in the future.
For a bridesmaid who is out of town, ask her to call her local bridal shops to see if they carry the same dress to try on it on there for size. Or, she can tell you her measurements by phone or email. It makes a lot of sense to order all of the dresses together because it will help reduce the chances of slight differences of color.
While selecting bridesmaids’ dresses, make sure that they complement your gown and fit in with the type, decor and color and wedding theme. Irrespective of their figures, all your bridesmaids should look flattering in simple, elegant designs.
Dress length
You should also pay attention to dress length, as the bridesmaids’ dresses for formal or semiformal weddings should be floor-length to tea-length. For an informal daytime wedding, it hardly matters if the dress is short or long. It is, however, a convention that the bridesmaids should not wear short dresses if the bride wears a floor-length dress.
The bridesmaids should also bring the same shoes or heel height as the bride on the wedding day. It is never a bad idea to talk to a few attendants before making the final choice.
It is possible that you would like to let your bridesmaids choose their own dresses. In such a scenario, it is better if the bridesmaids choose the same colors and similar styles even if the dresses are different. Alternatively, each bridesmaid can pick her own favorite color keeping the style uniform.
Otherwise, the bride can choose a particular color and let her bridesmaids choose the shade of that color they would like to wear. If you want to set the maid of honor apart from the other bridesmaids, choose for her a different color, dress or headpiece or just give her a larger bouquet.
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Bring the entourage, but don't buy. It's fun and useful to bring your mother, friends or sisters on the dress-shopping expedition. It gives you a buffer against an overbearing sales staff, and it's fun to see if your impressions of perfection are shared by your loved ones, not to mention how they'll love being part of such an important decision.
But no matter how enthusiastic everyone gets over a certain dress, don't buy in the heat of the moment. Give yourself time to reconsider and buy with a cool head later, alone. The vast majority of dresses are non-returnable, so when you've bought it, you've bought it.
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Don't buy too early unless you must. Bridal gowns can take four to ten months to come from the manufacturer, but there's no reason to buy over a year ahead of time, unless your chosen style is going to be discontinued. Give yourself some time to sit on your decision. Once you pick a gown, you'll see a hundred others nearly like it. You'll become a walking encyclopedia on that style of gown. All the better if you still have room to choose.
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If you've bought "The One," stop shopping. Any more window-shopping at this point will only lead you down the road toward the dreary land of Two-Dress Brides. What you need to do instead is remember that blissful feeling of having tried on The One. Go get The One out of the closet, put it on and stand in front of the mirror. You'll remember exactly why it's The One.
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If you've bought "The One" and can't stop shopping, get a second opinion. Show your first and second choices to other brides. Be honest -- tell them you've already remortgaged your condo for the first dress, but you think this second dress might be it. They'll be truthful, too -- the first one was better. You'll feel reassured.
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Don't tell yourself "I'll sell the old dress and choose a new one." This old saw of the Two-Dress Bride just won't work. You'll never get more than a fraction of what you paid for your first dress if you bought it new.
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Don't be afraid to aim high -- no matter what your budget. Some brides knew from the start they wanted a designer label, but life just didn't cooperate by making them heiresses. Yet all is not lost if you're willing to shop courageously. At any given moment, a better-heeled bride is selling her once-used St. Pucchi or Ulla-Maija on eBay.
She paid thousands upon thousands, but you, smart shopper, will pay half that or less. To take this road, you must shop earlier than other brides so you'll have a choice of gowns. Always pay with a credit card so you'll have recourse if the dress doesn't arrive in acceptable condition, and again, shop early so you can buy another if necessary. Shop courageously, but not recklessly.
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Shop online, but never send a check. Bridal gown businesses sometimes have a way of disappearing overnight. No matter what the proprietor tells you, never make a purchase as large as a wedding gown without the chargeback protection of a credit card. If they say they can't take plastic, move on.
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Don't hold out forever for The One. Some brides never find The One. What they do find is a few dresses they look beautiful in. If you're this bride, try starting your planning from the theme instead of the dress.
You'll probably eventually get sick to death of dress shopping. When that happens, "good enough" really will be good enough. Concentrate on other aspects of the wedding that mean a lot to you, like the venue, the food, or the inevitable adoration of your soon-to-be husband.
